People tend to find approval for themselves amongst others, others they think are close to them, others who they feel should have good judgment for them, and others who don’t matter much in reality. But a person, before seeking approval from others’ points of view, should seek love and importance in himself. That is the only way a person will be truly happy and content and appear good in others’ eyes. But to seek self-importance is easier said than done. It’s a long process but at least needs to start somewhere.
Let’s See Some Ways To Find love and Self Importance Inside Us:
The very first thing to be done should be to accept yourself. Accepting your looks, your flaws, your approach towards the world, and it’s working. Only then will you be able to move on further on self-betterment and eventually gain self importance.
Many people think that how others do a thing is the only right way to it, and this often leads one to believe he is not good at it or he can’t do it. But the thing is that everybody has their own process and approach towards things and problems. Discover your way to work, think, and approach towards work or people or any other thing.
It is essential to accept your flaws, but it is equally important to work on those which hinder your growth. Find those flaws and work on them. They can be anything ranging from laziness to arrogance to anything that subconsciously disturbs your being.
You don’t need to accept everything. If any aspect that you find not good about you that can be transformed or changed, you should work upon it. Working on yourself is a part of self-love. The betterment of personality makes you happy and also impactful on others. It’s just that you should do what makes you happy. It can be anything like a toned body you have always wanted; start working on it.
5. Gain Perspective
Seek what makes you happy. Seek what you’re passionate about and start working to achieve it. Your happiness lies in your hands and your decisions. Don’t make others do it for you. Clear that haze in front of you and gain some clarity about yourself.
While it is true that not everyone’s opinion matters but there is always someone who matters the most to you, they can be your parents, siblings, or friends. They are important and a part of you, and if they are not clear-sighted about your decisions, talking is the key. Talk to them and make them believe in you. Self importance can’t be found by hurting those who care for you.
Stay away from those who make you feel worthless. Find who truly cares for you and who just pretends. Get away from all the toxicity and give importance to yourself. Your decisions need to be heard. Gain equality in a relationship, be it any relationship, as maintaining it is a two-way street, and not all efforts should be from your side.
Gaining self-importance doesn’t mean that you become self-centered and arrogant. Find balance and never lose touch. There always should be a person to whom you talk about everything. Work on your ethics and give importance to those who deserve it.
9. Don’t Shy Away
Learn how to make yourself heard. Don’t hesitate in raising your point of view and decisions and ideas in front of others. Know where it matters, and if it does, then make sure that your ideas don’t get ignored. This is the way to gain self importance which brings confidence as well.
Respect the kind of person you are. If you’re an introvert, then it’s not necessary to pressurize yourself or let others pressurize you to be another way. Remember, introversion and shyness are not the same things. If fewer people bring peace to you, let it be that way and make others respect that. The same goes for extroverts, don’t let others suppress your nature.
11. Get Help
If you feel that something is getting to your head, if you’re depressed or suffering from anxiety or any other mental health problem, don’t shy away from getting help. Talk to others and seek therapy. Bring yourself out of the mess. You don’t deserve that darkness.
12. Don’t Subside
Try not to get under peer pressure and do something that doesn’t make you happy only because everyone is doing it. Take rest if you want to while others boast of being productive. It’s not a rat race, peace of mind matters.
13. Motivate Yourself
If you want to do something but can’t, try motivating yourself by reminding yourself of the importance and product of the work. You can also gift yourself after completion; it helps.
14. Don’t Ignore
Believe in your virtues. While it is important to take someone’s advice for important decisions, never ignore your intuition. It matters and provides a sense of self importance.
If you think that you can’t do a thing, work for it and show yourself that you can. Believing in yourself is the ultimate self-knowledge. It provides you all the power within yourself. And it is essential to establish your worth before others see it.